When you adopt an older child, you have interesting conversations and questions. It is a unique family experience. Sometimes "precious", sometimes "heart breaking", they are conversations that tell me how far we have come as a family and how blessed I am to have these children as my own. Here are some of our conversations, most of which come from Faith:
First time we meet Brian and Faith-"What should we call you?" and "Are we going to live with you forever?"
"So is this your car or our car?" "Are these your cats, or our cats?"
A couple of hours after moving into our home-"Do you like having us live here?"
As we were signing up for library cards with the librarian-"Can I change my last name? I don't like my last name."
"Am I being good?"
"Would you ever hit me?"
1 week after they had been living with us, Faith asks- "How long are we going to live here?"
and "Are we going to be here at Christmas?"
When Christmas started to get close-"Are you going to buy our presents at the dollar store?" "If we get christmas money, are you going to take it?"
They went for a visit to their foster mom's one last time- "Are you tricking us and sending us back for good?"
"Are you my real mom?"
"Do you love me?"